BC113: Presence > Presents

Do you want to know the greatest gift that you can give someone this holiday season?

The best present you can possibly offer to someone that you love?

Watch this video below to find out what it is:

Most people make the mistake during the holiday season of listening to the voice inside of their head instead of talking to themselves.

Carry yourself with tremendous presence and make it about others.  Be where your feet are.

How much can you give this holiday season?

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BRIAN CAIN 

 
 
 

PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION

Brian: Do you want to know the greatest gif you can get this holiday season? The best present you could possibly offer someone who you love? Well what it is is it’s actually your presence. You see your presence is the greatest gift that you can give. In today’s day and age where we’re constantly looking at cell phones or we’re distracted by the TV or everywhere you go there is something catchy that is going to pull your attention and rip you out of that present moment, how good can you be at giving presents this holiday season?

We know that yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is the gift that is why they call it the present. Can you turn your phone off? Can you digitally detox and be where your feet are so that when you walk into the room with your family you can say “there you are” instead of “here I am.” When you put that focus on others and you’re there to serve and you’re there just to be present, just to listen, not to then run the tape recorder and the conversation in your head to evaluate what it is they’re saying but just to listen and not even offer and feedback or suggestion unless they ask for it, that is going to be true presence.

There is a great book I want to recommend this holiday season. It’s actually called Presence. It’s my Amy Cuddy. She is a social psychologist at Harvard University. She has got the number two watched TED Talk of all time about the science and power of body language. One of the key principles that she shares in her book Presence is that your thoughts and your emotions are as much as cause of how you carry yourself as how you carry yourself is a result of your thoughts and your emotions.

Most people make the mistake during the holiday season to listen to the voice inside of their head instead of talk to themselves. They let their emotions that they get when they get around family or they let their thoughts that come into their mind affect how they carry themselves. What I invite you to do this holiday season is to carry yourself with a different presence. Carry yourself with your shoulders back, proud. Carry yourself with that chin up high and focus on other people.

This holiday season how much can you give? We know it is far better to give than it is to receive and when you give you receive everything. This holiday season if you just help enough other people get what they want you’ll be sure to get everything that you want. So be where your feet are, be present, and serve.

In the 628 exercise you are simply going to inhale for a count of six, hold for two, and then exhale for eight. You’re going to want to have your hands comfortably in front of you with a gentle fist. As you complete your first cycle of 628 just hold out the number one. In that second cycle of 628 hold out the number two, then the third, fourth, and fifth cycle. We want to just do five of these 628 breaths in a row. Have that straight spine whether you’re standing or you’re sitting. I’ll count you through these 628 breaths. Ultimately you are doing these on your own counting to yourself.

Here we go. Let’s begin with an inhale in 3, 2, 1. Inhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. Hold, 2. Exhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. Inhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. Hold, 2. Exhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. Inhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. Hold, 2. Exhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. Inhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. Hold, 2. Exhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8. Inhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6. Hold, 2. Exhale, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8.

That concludes your 628 breathing exercise. I’ve seen athletes use this in between innings in a dugout, at the free throw line in basketball, before a set piece in soccer, before a game in the locker room in any sport. Just like we talked about with the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 exercise the 628 is simply another exercise that you can do to help build your present moment focus. So find the time during your daily routine where you can sit and take a couple good 628 breaths to get you back in control.